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  1. Hi Rosiecheeks, Im glad to hear you're beginning IPL treatments. Ive heard a lot about that, I havent tried it myself but I might do. I read a good article by a doc in Australia on Rosacea and he recommended IPL as the best way to reduce redness in the face. Although the down side is it is fairly expensive. Please do let us know how you get on with it, I'd be interested to know! As for the docs, well yes they can be a bit flippant and dismissive at the best of times when it comes to our condition! I can definitely relate to your whole situation with blushing. Blushing all the time whether at work or outside of work. I can also understand that "trapped" feeling that can bring on the blush. For me, I would blush more inside than outside. Outside for some reason I feel a lot more secure and not concerned about blushing therefore I dont blush as much. One of my worst triggers for blushing was in the college canteen. Eating alone tends to make my face red but also the fact that your sitting down in front of people and talking, when any possible thing the person says to you can set you off. As for blushing being a more physical or psychological problem. For me it is very much both. Physical in that as your IPL practitioner said, blushing over the years causes your body to create more blood vessels in that area as an adaptive strategy, its like the body thinks "jeez, shifting a lot of blood to the face, better build more vessels to hold all this" redder and redder the cycle continues. So the physical aspect in that you actually need the high number of blood vessels to actually go that red. There also seems to be a nervous system element to it as well. That feeling you get just before your face goes red, that panic in the belly, thats the fight or flight response kicking in and its your sympathetic nervous system taking over and instigating all these bodily responses (increase heart rate, sweaty hands, tensing of the body and unfortunately for us, blood rushing to our face and neck). The sympathetic nervous system which turns on the blush is controlled by an older part of the brain from an evolutionary perspective and out of our direct conscious control. But it can be indirectly influenced, for example by increasing the "parasympathetic nervous system" activity (when activated, decreases heart rate, relaxes muscle groups, slows down breathing rate). This is done in many ways, for example, directly after vigorous exercise for example, the minute you stop exercising your parasympathetic nervous system kicks in. Thats why you may not get that panicky feeling of going to blush for a period of time after exercising, your parasympathetic nervous system is in action, but slowly over time your sympathetic nervous branch takes over and your back to blushing mode. Also, when you get up in the morning, for the first hour your parasympathetic nervous system is still dominant from the time you were sleeping. Through out the day as your body reacts to the stresses your sympathetic branch becomes dominant. That's probably why people complain of blushing more in the afternoon and evenings more so than first thing in the morning. So that's why in my original post above I highlighted Alexander technique and tai chi. They both increase "parasympathetic" or relaxation nervous activity. Im just back from a tai chi class now in fact and feel great So I am going on a bit, but the original point was that you think it is a mainly physical problem, well in a sense you're right, without the physical aspect, you would not blush. But there is a psychological aspect to it as well. The way we perceive things can affect how our nervous system reacts to the environment. For instance, you said that you have some degree of an inferiority complex (I in a way have the same problem), its not a conscious thought of inferiority but a whole belief system that has developed over the years. This belief may not be very rational (as you said you try to think its bulls**t) but it influences how you perceive. So applying this to your job, your boss may not seem like just another person trying to communicate with you but instead as a threat to you and your emotional/psychological (or even economical) well being. This perception of threat or danger increases sympathetic nervous system activity (getting ready to react to this threat) and then a small trigger occurs, your boss or colleague says something to you and bamb, blush city!! Ok ok, im waffling now but just thought I'd get some of my ideas on this out there. Let me know how you get on with your first IPL treatment, id really like to know how you get on!! Apologies for the long post!
  2. Hi Rosiecheeks (it's kind of funny adddressing someone by this name ) I have read some of Holfords work and I am also very interested in how diet influences the body and the development of disease. Some of this interest stems from my own dissatisfaction with some traditional medical practices (over prescribing medications that may not be necessary and that kind of thing). Actually as an aside, I remember having an argument with my GP when discussing some acne that I had, I said that it seems that the acne symptoms get worse when I eat fatty or greasy food and subsides when I refrain from eating such foods. My GP dismissed this and said that diet had nothing to do with it. It was entirely genetic and hormonal. In essence, he was trying to say that there was nothing I could do about the acne from a behavioral perspective. It was completely out of my control and it just the way my body was. Instead, I should take the medication he prescribed. I read the potential side effects of the medication and opted not to take them. From this, I read some of Holfords work, followed his recommendations and got some results but it later transpired that the acne was related to Rosacea and that diet can only be considered a partial cure (along with reducing flushing episodes.....easier said than done eh? and practicing and adequate skin care regime) I have to admit though that I have not read "Brain Bio" but I will surely do a search on it! It's interesting how you said that you have a normal social life and great friends but you blush quite badly at work. What is it about work that makes you blush more frequently relative to other parts of your life? Does it involve a lot of public speaking, presentations or is it purely the environment? like warm rooms and that? I have had similar experiences but I would be interested to hear your point of view!
  3. Hi everyone, I dont come on here much anymore, in fact I only came back here to see if anyone had reviewed Rosacea Cares products Zinco untinted sunscreen, vita oil etc. Well no one seems to be talking about that so I may as well give a short message updating how things are going. I am in my mid 20's and have been suffering from blushing for about 13 years. Wow its tough!! Although for me much much tougher in my teenage years. Throughout the blushing I have managed to maintain a normal social life, I have good friends and I dont suffer from social anxiety as such. When reading through some posts I noticed that some comment that blushing is linked with feelings of anxiety and these feelings can result in blushing episodes. By in large, through my own experience I agree with this. Although I know there are many types of blushing and flushing and some may suffer blushing episodes that are more physical in nature (warm environment, hot food, time of day i.e., evenings, alcohol etc.). Well for all those who think of their problem as more psychological and anxiety related (like me). I have found that a healthy diet (refer to books like The Nutrition Bible by Patrick Holford for more info) and exercise has been very beneficial in terms of maintaining some level of self esteem and normality. I dont have a car so therefore walk and cycle everywhere. I also play other sports. Sports make me flush but I dont care much about that other than it can aggravate Rosacea symptoms such as acne. Also, I have found that systematic physical relaxation has been hugely beneficial in terms of reducing blushing and increasing well being and psychological health. Two things I strongly recommend in this regard, Tai Chi and the Alexander Technique. I am mid way through an introductory 12 week tai chi course. As well as being a good social outlet (we all drink tea and chat before class) it is an excellent form of exercise that is not as rigorous to cause flushing and facilitates complete relaxation through synching breath and movement. In turn, your parasympathetic nervous system (the anti blush system) kicks in and it feels great. I myself find myself more open and easy socially after classes. The Alexander Technique is not an exercise as such but also initiates PNS activity through physiological relaxation. Really I cant recommend these two things enough or anything similar (yoga may also work for some). Indeed, this is not a cure but increases physical and psychological health which facilitates more social interaction. Believe me, regardless of how "introverted" you think you are, being social is good for you and makes you feel good! Humans like most animals are social creatures and we NEED relationships. The greatest unsung tragedy of this condition as it can stop us from having a normal social life leaving us depressed and overly self concerned. Going on a tangent here, hope some of you out there give it a go!
  4. A very recent study conducted on blushing. This was sent to me as part of a weekly email by the British Psychological Society today. Can a fear of blushing be cured in a weekend? ---------------------------------------- You may have heard of weekend workshops in creative writing or first aid but what about a weekend course to reduce your fear of blushing? Could such a brief, intensive intervention help people for whom a dread of turning red ruins their social lives and undermines their success at work? According to a new, preliminary study - the answer is a tentative Yes. Samia Chaker and colleagues recruited through adverts in a German pharmacy magazine 27 people with social phobia, and in particular a fear of blushing. The weekend course began on a Friday at 2pm and ran until 9pm the following evening. The focus was on 'task concentration training'. Research has shown that a fear of blushing develops through and is worsened by excess focus on the self. A person feels self-conscious, they redden, they feel the warmth in their cheeks and the cycle of self-focus is perpetuated. Through reading stories, role-playing and watching themselves on video, the participants practiced turning their focus away from themselves and to the task at hand - be that the words of a conversational partner or the reading of a story. The participants were also given advice on how to practice re-directing their attention over the coming six weeks, first in non-threatening situations and then in more difficult social contexts. At the end of the weekend compared with at baseline, 37 per cent of participants showed clinically significant improvement in their fear of blushing. By six month follow-up this had risen to 56 per cent of the sample. Improvements were greater in those who said they had practiced re-focusing their attention in difficult situations in the weeks following the weekend workshop. The results are only preliminary: the lack of a control group is a major limitation as is the inability to tease out the most important parts of the intervention. However, feedback from the participants showed the course to have been well-received and worthwhile of future investigation. 'The time-efficient nature of such an intensive treatment could hold great appeal and practicality for working professionals who are short on time, those who prefer a less "therapy-like" experience, or individuals with geographic restrictions,' the researchers said.
  5. "My doctor seems to agree with this assement, as benzos will slow or stop the issue alot, and benzos directly affect the nervous system" Its interesting that "benzos" is among other things a muscle relaxant. I have discussed before on this forum the benefits of the Alexander Technique for blushing. In the evenings I often practice AT and after, I am very relaxed both physiologically and mentally (In fact I dont believe it is possible to be relaxed physically and be tense psychologically or visa versa). But after, the liklihood of me blushing goes way down, for a while at least For me, the common demoninator between not blushing in the mornings, not blushing after exercise or not blushing when one is physically relaxed is the function of the parasympathetic nervous system. In all three scenarios, the parasympathetic nervous system is dominant. It is well known that it is the sympatethetic nervous system that 'triggers' a fight or flight response (or in our case, a blushing or FB episode). The Parasympethetic nervous system is the antagonist to the sympathetic nervous system. If the parasympethetic nervous system is dominant because one is physiologically relaxed, then the sympethetic nervous system has less of a say in the matter. If all the above is true, then a direct link between FB and ones habitual thinking can be made as the nervous system is infinitely responsive to our thoughts. Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a stressful situation and see how your nervous system responds. If your breath becomes restricted or shortened, if your heart rate speeds up, if you get a pang of butterflies in your abdomen, if you begin to perspire and if you begin to feel warm in the cheeks, this is the sympathetic nervous system activating, under which we have no control!!........well we do....kind of, we just activated it via our thinking which we do have control. Genetics play a part, as the physiological ability to blush is genetic. The composition of our nervous system is genetic also. Some are generally more excitable by nature than others. But our thinking is not genetic, we have direct control and I believe that is of some value.
  6. "Bad wiring"? Very interesting theory and something I havent really investigated before. However there are other variables to consider. For instance I am not nearly as likely to have an FB episode in the morning as I am in the evening. When I am relaxed physically and psychologically I am ok. Put me in the very same situation when I am more tense (in the evenings when I am at work) and I will blush. In these situations just the slightest thing could set it off, something someone might say, meeting someone I havent seen in a while.....the list goes on Bad wiring maybe, but other factors must come into account
  7. Good luck with your plaquenil trial curlgurl. Ive never heard of it but im gona look it up. Thanks for the links Emsworth. I read the first one which quoted Dr. Guy F. Webster. At the end of the article when asked whether one drug could treat the four different types of Rosacea he stated "The one thing we can say with absolute certainty is that there is something neurologically weird about rosacea patients". I wonder what he meant by that or how he deduced that? neurologically weird???? Anyone know more about what he could have meant?
  8. Congratulations on your new job cheekycheeks. And I like your username too From reading your posts you seem to have a great attitude about blushing. Thats more like it!
  9. There are more than likely deeper issues underlying your current thinking patterns. It may not be very useful to try and change to a more "positive mental attitude" without addressing these underlying issues. For this, you should really talk to someone....anyone. Here is a good start but talking to people you are close to or even getting on the phone to a support charity organisation would also be benefical. Also, it may be worth trying a little daily observation exercise: 1. Every evening before you go to sleep spend five minutes lying down or sitting cross legged or on the floor. 2. Begin focusing on the breath as it goes in and out through your nose. Dont try and alter it in any way but just notice how it goes in and out all by itself. 3. After a minute shift your focus to your thinking mind. Again watch your thoughts as you watched your breath. Dont try and alter your thoughts in any way but do not engage in them either. Just be there with them and accept them, acknowledge them as the come. You may find that as soon as you recognise them like this in whatever form they may be they will subside very fast and a new one will take its place. Thats fine. If they do not subside, this is ok also. Be there with them and that is all. You may also be aware of some emotion or another that may be painful or may be pleasurable. This is ok. Be there with it. Do not try and bury it or hide from it. Just be with it. Notice it. I do an exercise similar to this as part of the Alexander Technique. At the end I am very relaxed physically. Sometimes I find before I do this i may be low and have negative thoughts and self image when I look in the mirror. I would feel bad about myself and the way I look After the exercise, I may look in the mirror and smile. I feel genuinely good. About myself and in general. If you try this and you dont feel good, guess what..... thats ok too Try it for a week for 5 mins (or more if you feel like it depending on where you are). If you dont feel its doing any good. Dont bother. But try it for a week at least to get the feel for it.
  10. A healthy lifestyle has certainly helped my cause as far as day to day living is concerned. Im much more confident and I look better if I do say so myself 8). My papules and postules caused by the Rosacea have virtually cleared up solely through good food and plenty of water. I also dont have a car so I use a bike and through that I keep pretty fit. I feel I am in good spirits most of the time so I am more sociable. Yes i still blush. Yes I still flush. But not as much as before and nor does it bother me half as much. For those that dont live a healthy lifestyle or dont follow the tips from the first poster, try it out!
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    Everyones different. Three tips that help me include 1. Regular exercise and Healthy diet including loads of water, at least 2 litres a day 2. Encourage "parasympethetic nervous activity" through activities such as breathing excercises, yoga or Alexander technique. 3. Avoid ruminating over previous blushing situations and avoid stressing/thinking about possible future blushing situations which encourages further physiological and psychological stress Also, I make it my personal mission to go head first into any situation that I feel I want to avoid. I blush sometimes and sometimes I dont. But whatever happens, i feel its a lot better than that horrible feeling you get when you avoid something or someone you think you shouldnt have.
  12. Point taken, Good post scarface. From reading about your background I realise I cannot really communicate on a level in which you can fully relate to. Ignoring our red faces for a moment. My family life has not exactly been plain sailing either. I am the youngest in the family with two elder brothers. My mother has been a saint in my life. A provider of love throughout but as a typical mother can not help, her attention can be sufficating to a growing adult. My father has been the antithesis of a good parent. Drinking every night. Being selfish in his ways, always thinking of himself, being a moron in social interaction and basically not really being capable of giving a dam about anyone else. Now I realise he has had a difficult childhood also and has been a victim of his own upbringing. Without getting into too much detail, everyone has their own story, everyone as far as i know has a messed up family to some degree. I just thank my lucky stars I had my mother.Without I may have not had the mental stability I think I have now. So perhaps you have a point that up bringing has a factor to play in how you can deal with your blushing problems. But from my experience up to now, from my study of what makes a person successful/happy. Ive read many self help books and have made a lot of common sense observations, i feel their are principles that one can attempt to live by that aid in a "normal life" regardless of background. Although it is a help if you have a supportive family and healthy background. Forgiveness and understanding rather than neglect and hatred is always a healthy habit for psychological wellbeing. Many of us have reason to hate, to really hate. But to forgive and understand despite this is a necessity before any healing/growth can occur. I find that hating someone even if they have done awful things to us inflicts more pain. To forgive is character building and healing. Their weakness of character/ignorance has no power against us if we truly forgive them Other principles in common with happy/successful people are honesty, integrity and self development/quality/excellence. These arent merely laws we should try to follow but facts of life. Really your character and perception of life will be affected by your actions in accordance with these principles. I really cannot stress how important and undeniable these principles are. It is my firm belief that people who live by these principles are people who are truly happy. Beyond this, filling your life with hate (even if you have a very rational and justifiable reason) is not a route to a happy life. Similarly a life filled with dishonesty distrust and lust/greed and mediocrity is not the road to happiness but the road to unhappiness or proverbial "hell". One must possess psychological wellbeing before one can tackle blushing. Im not going to delve into what exactly is "psychological wellbeing" because its 6 o clock in the morning. But in short scarface, i cant fully relate to your situation, i can only give you what ive learned from my own experience. Hate does no one any favours, especially you
  13. Just a quick post/observation. From reading posts here for years. I have seen people come and go. Some people seem to have it more severe than others. Some people are completely debilitated by it. Some people not so much so and live a relatively normal lifestyle despite the 'inconvenience'. Despite the differences in the condition, the ones who suffer the most are the ones who make the issue of blushing central to their lives. The ones who wake up in the morning thinking about it. Go about their day dreading it, planning on ways to avoid anxiety causing social interaction. Go to sleep ruminating on how painful their blushing has been. People who lead a normal life despite this condition have a greater ability to shrug it off when blushing/flushing happens. It doesnt bother them because they have no problem openly admitting it or dont take other peoples perceptions/views so seriously. People with severe cases of blushing will argue that its the severity of their condition that causes them to suffer the way they do. They might have a point but I do not believe that is the whole story. Much of the pain and anguish is self inflicted. It is not the 'looks' or the comments people give that hurts us, its OUR REACTION to them that hurts us. The greater emphasis we give to others peoples opinions and perceptions, the more we allow them to hurt us. The more we dwell on it, the more it hurts us emotionally, psychologically. This idea runs parralel with Gandhi's famous quote "They cannot take away our self-respect if we do not give it to them" No matter what they do, it can't effect us with out our own ackowledgment. What do you think?
  14. Hi Scarface, With regards to your experience ETS i cannot really relate, only commiserate with you unfortunately. Im sorry to hear it wasnt a success. However your experience with blushing really does sound familiar. Im 24 and particularly in highschool 13-18yrs i was REALLY suffering. Blushing infront of everyone, even my best friends. Girls??? man dont even go there! Like you, blushing dominated my thoughts to such an extent, I was obsessed with what others thought of me. Thoughts of this nature produced a lot of anxiety which brought about a lot of blushing and flushing. When i finished school (did quite badly), i took a year out and worked in a filling station. Around that time i spent a lot of time on this forum writing about my experiences on blushing. After my year out i enroled in a degree psychology course in a town where i knew no one. Purposely I went somewhere where no one knew my "shy red past". The lessons I learned about blushing in my year out really helped me and I eventually graduated in 2008. I am now back home and back with my old circle of friends and at my old job. Now as a whole, I am a happier person. I still blush, I still flush, I am treating myself for Rosacea and I still struggle with my old social habits of creating a barrier between myself and people around me not letting people get too close. But I have good friends and a relatively normal social life and with a degree and an english teaching qualification, good prospects for the future. If I was to give you one piece of advice, it would be to read the book steve suggested. Accepting yourself as you are now is a big part towards living a more fulfilling life. Accepting that you blush, accepting that people may find it strange, accepting that people may laugh, accepting that people may not laugh. Accepting how you feel now at this moment. Accepting now! Two simple words but in the little experience I have, very profound. Doing this will not cure your blushing or your CS. It wont undo your ETS either. But it will slowly transform your inner experience of life. It will relieve the inner tension that is manifesting itself in you as dullness, anxiety and perhaps even dispair. I think that only through self acceptance or experience in the present moment will you find the self expression you are looking for.
  15. Thats every bit as bad. I was teaching my class for three days. you were a student in that class for a whole semester, nightmare! Thanks for the story tho i feel your pain
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